Just Don't Get Me Started

15. 'Boys Will Be Boys' & Other Bullsh*t

There's a lot of sayings and phrases we'll hear in our lifetime.

 

A little secret? Most of them are absolute bullshit!

 

Whether it's phrases perpetuating toxic masculinity and rape culture, or phrases that completely invalidate people needlessly.

 

So in this episode I completely lose it and go off on one about some of the phrases that crossed my mind as being completely ridiculous (I'm sure there are many more I could bring up...)

 

Also ranted about:

 

- Why being 'the bigger man' is a load of bollocks designed to push the myth that forgiveness is the only route to moral superiority and closure

- 'Boys will be boys' and 'boys don't cry' as contributors to a toxic culture that continues because of these narratives

- 'Beauty is pain' and 'boys who pick on you like you' as ridiculous phrases that make young girls assume that pain is an inevitable part of becoming beautiful and being loved (waxing might be painful but that doesn't mean beauty is...)

- Why 'I'm sorry you felt that way' is one of the biggest crocks of shit in the world of pointless apologies and lacks any accountability.

 

If you don't like the episode, I'm sorry you FELT that way.... (I am genuinely sorry if you actually made it through this episode, though!)

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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14. 'As Per My Last Email'...

We've all been there.

 

Whether you're looking down at a text, glaring at an email or standing in front of someone who's managed to get you a level of angry you didn't think was possible to reach - we've all avoided confrontation at some point.

 

It might seem like the easier thing to do, but over time small annoyances will eventually culminate in a confrontation nobody wants. 

 

(You know, the group chat messages that get ridiculously personal, or the in-person insults that digress into the fact you were given Soap & Glory for Christmas?)

 

Often, confrontation is the end results of boundaries being crossed, or boundaries not being enforced properly.....

 

So, here's what I ramble about in this week's episode:

 

- How not liking confrontation doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself

- Setting boundaries and how not to enforce them

- Putting your foot down properly when it comes to boundaries

- Why confrontation often doesn't serve any purpose in most cases (hence why I think it's a load of bollocks)

- Why, sometimes, you just need to use the block button and tell someone to fuck off

 

Now I'm not encouraging you all to email your boss and tell him he's always been a prick and smells of Lynx Africa, but if that's what you feel encouraged to do after this episode, that's your prerogative.... I take no responsibility.

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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13. Why Do Celebrity Deaths Hurt So Much?

After the recent passing of phenomenal actor, Chadwick Boseman, I started to think about a topic that crosses my mind every time a public figure passes away.

Why does it affect a lot of the general public so much?

Though our relation to and sometimes, obsession with, those in the public eye can be described as superficial and vapid, we often see the visceral reactions to the sudden passing of celebrities.

I think that people are often being too removed when they imply we can't/shouldn't feel a certain way about this when it happens, as we all have a point of relation to which we look up to certain celebrities with.

 

Also discussed:

 

• Why the passing of celebrities hits us so hard, including having a point of relation and their contributions to social change and humanitarianism
• How this can also apply to negative feelings, such as with the passing of political figures
• The detrimental effects of celebrity culture and 24/7 news access, and why we need to sometimes step away from the gossip and mind our own business
• Why we should protect Ian McKellen at all costs 

 

(And a random rant about Margaret Thatcher. Click the link below for the great angry Scottish lady!)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUlj48Rvp1c

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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12. 22 Years of Bullsh*t

Having turned 22 recently, I’ve elected to reflect on my 22 years of being an idiot by giving my younger self some advice.

Whether it’s trying to please everyone or an inability to say no to friends, we’ve all had moments in adulthood where we wish we’d known better when we were younger.

So, why not listen as I walk myself through things I wish I’d taken on board when I was younger?

There are some beautiful ASMR sounds in the background such as heavy rain and, of course, due to being in Salford, sirens.

Also discussed:

• Why viewing things as temporary can be beneficial rather than ‘morbid’, particularly when it comes to friendships that can still be meaningful even when they don’t last
• Not giving in to societal expectations and assuming because you fit certain ‘categories’ you have to assimilate
• The power of saying NO (it’s fucking fantastic!)
• How your mum is always correct when she tells you certain relationships in your life won’t last (seriously)
• Why we should stop trying to please everyone else and focus on ourselves instead

What advice would you give your younger self?

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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11. Error 101 - Productivity Not Found

What do you mean I can’t work in my pyjamas?

With more people having been working from home, there’s been an all-time emphasis on just how productive we can be.

Well, speaking personally, I can say it certainly comes and goes!

In this rather aimless, ranty episode, I talk about how working remotely has changed a lot of our ideas around our own productivity, and how this might change even further once we’re all expected to go back into offices and workspaces.

Also discussed:

• Productivity when working remotely
• The role of technology in inhibiting productivity
• How our idea on what helps and hinders our productivity can change
• The major changes that have come and are about to occur due to shifting working habits
• Why we don’t need to be so harsh about our output at a time like this
• Rambling aimlessly about beer gardens

(Due to my own issues with technology, this episode may seem a little all over the place…but it’s better than nothing!)

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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10. What the F*ck is a Summer Body?

Get summer ready with our Top 10 Bikini Body Tips!!!!

 

Fuck off, Chelsea. Your flat tummy tea sponsorship isn’t fooling anyone.

 

Sadly, when summer rolls around, there are a lot of people eyeing up their summer clothes with disdain, anxiety and immense sadness. Whether it’s struggling to fit into clothes after lockdown, or staring down at the size of your jeans and wondering why you can’t fit into them – body image issues are prevalent.

 

Summer seems to be the biggest breeding ground for these feelings, with ‘bikini body’ narratives plastered everywhere, and the assumption that any skin you show has to be tanned, unblemished and toned into oblivion.

 

Well, we’re human.

 

Some humans have stretch marks, cellulite, acne and jiggly bits. And that’s fine.

 

Also discussed in this episode:

• How our emotionality ties into eating behaviours and the way we should approach discussions around body image, disordered eating and health
• Why the ‘I’m saying it for their health’ argument for speaking on other people’s bodies is bullshit
• Body dysmorphia and how it can affect your perception of yourself and others
• How our childhood perception of food can later affect our relationship with eating behaviours and our body image (reward/punishment)
• Why you should wear whatever the fuck you want in summer

I could’ve spent about three hours tying disordered eating, body image, body perception and societal expectations of beauty all together but…this quick stop tour will have to suffice.

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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9. Well, Well, Wellbeing...?

Have you tried exercising?

 

Well, fuck me, Susan, I didn’t realise a deadlift would cure my anxiety, clear my skin and cleanse my soul!

 

As discussions around mental health become normalised and mainstream, the concept of wellbeing does, too.

 

Whilst this means more people are gaining an awareness of what works for them and what doesn’t, it also means that commercialised wellbeing is taking over with a ‘one size fits all’ approach that people are paying good money to hear.

 

If there’s one thing nobody likes, it’s unsolicited advice, which tends to come hand in hand with the concept of wellbeing strategies.

 

In this episode, I talk about why I hate the concept of commercialised wellbeing quotas, toxic positivity and the narrative that mental health can be ‘cured’.

Also discussed:

• Why wellbeing becoming mainstream has filled the space with commercialised bullshit
• How those speaking the loudest about their wellbeing and mental health are often unqualified to do so, and profiting on the concept that people can be ‘cured’
• How no two people’s wellbeing strategies will or should be the same
• The changes that happen in our lives that mean wellbeing will never be a static thing
• Why having one cup of green tea and banging on an essential oil candle won’t solve the mess that is your life

 

(Look, I wish a good face mask and some cucumbers over my life would solve my problems, but it doesn’t!)

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

 

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

 

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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8. Me, Myself and Lies

“Sorry, I forgot to respond to the email you sent me out of hours!”

We all lie. Whether you’re embezzling a boring story to make it funny, blatantly fabricating excuses for ignoring annoying colleagues or doing it without realising, research has shown adults lie a minimum of 2x a day.

(That’s not even accounting for the tiny white lies!)

So, why do we lie?

There’s no definitive technique or technology to deduce lies, and if there was, we’d probably all be in BIG trouble.

However, there are a multitude of reasons why we are so bad at detecting lies, why we lie and how lying can change even our neuropsychology.

Also discussed:

• How lying is a fundamental part of child development
• Why we’re so bad at detecting lies, particularly because we want and expect the truth from others
• The bullshit ‘cues’ people cite as signs of lying and why they are flawed
• Our capacity for dishonesty, including the primary categories of lies and why we use them
• A bit of research mingled with my own moronic musings on lying, and why lying isn’t necessarily always a bad thing

 

Food for thought…

If you say you’re not a liar, you’ve even tricked yourself….

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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7. The Empire Strikes Back

Not that empire!

In a new (hopefully) series of episodes, I’m going to be taking you through a period of history, since we all know that our knowledge from high school is about as valuable as GCSE French.

In today’s episode, I talk about the beginnings of the British Empire, starting in 1497, where we start the old British tradition of continually fucking things up.

From voyages to the Americas to England versus Spain, let me guide you horribly through a period in history that saw the beginnings of England deciding it was a good idea to impose their presence on every other piece of land they could navigate to!

Also discussed:

• Henry VIII and his fantastic choices, including creating the Church of England and the monarch tradition of pissing off Ireland
• Philip 2^nd of Spain, protector of Catholicism and King of several places…and his quest to truly stick it to England
• Elizabeth 1^st and her use of Dutch Privateers, hatred of Catholicism and general dislike of Spain (and love for stealing their silver)
• The beginnings of Colonialism and slavery (briefly)

 

It’s a quick tour, but I’m certain it’s more valuable than GCSE History…but perhaps less valuable than a Horrible History book. Oh well!

 

A great video resource (and channel): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQktE-YKlJg

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

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Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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6. #Cancelled

#GraceHallIsOverParty

Seriously. How many people are going to get ‘cancelled’?

Lockdown has proven that we can’t go a week without someone being cancelled. Whether it’s Youtube Creators, celebrities or your next door neighbour- we’re all #cancelled.

It’s an internet phenomenon that seems to have come from nowhere, based on the assumption that if someone does wrong, we can cut them from their profit and platform permanently by airing their dirty laundry, or, in most cases, simple mistakes.

(This is not in reference to those who do blackface and use racial slurs, because that will always be fucking stupid and unacceptable).

Also discussed:

• How cancel culture arose in Youtube’s beauty community (I’ve not got the time to do an entire timeline of events, though, so it’s very brief)
• Accountability and how it plays into cancel culture
• The importance of education in avoiding future mistakes
• Differences between genuine issues that deserve addressing and repercussions (such as use of racial slurs and black face) and those that require education
• The psychology of ‘cancellation’, using Lerner’s ‘Just World Hypothesis’

 

 

A quick link to update you on the ‘beauty community’ drama, and cancellation in general: https://www.insider.com/why-some-celebrities-seem-bulletproof-to-being-canceled-2020-7

 

Lucky you, you’ve landed on Just Don’t Get Me Started, the podcast that is taking on society one rant at a time.

Laugh at or with host, Grace Hall, as she attempts to battle through Salford’s intense background noise, her own procrastination and her tendency to pick up new hobbies and drop them immediately to entertain you (a little).

Just Don’t Get Me Started is sometimes informed, always humorous, and is centred around bringing entertainment through topics that matter.

If you want to receive a very loving message to your inbox, please do forward the podcast on social media, subscribe on whichever platform it is you love to listen on or just shout from the rooftops about it, because your neighbours should be as annoyed with you as you are with them.

 

Harass me on social media:

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My LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/grace-r-hall/

 

Intro and outro music:

Hall of the Mountain King Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

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